1. notleia says:

    Oh, expectations, how you’ve bitten me in the ass. Not to mention my ex-dude’s expectations. It’s hard to plumb the line between fantasy and reality when you haven’t made enough dumbass decisions to manure the Seedbed of Wisdom.

    And my expectations of  an independent at-least-lower-middle class lifestyle  after my college education may lead me to do another possibly stupid thing like join the military. Good pay, housing and medical included, and I get to travel, maybe overseas, maybe to Germany and Iceland and not Iraq. On the other hand, it’s the military, with all its bureaucratic bull. And I’m not sure how much of the Full Metal Jacket treatment I should expect or how well I’d put up with it. (I’ve asked nearly everyone else’s opinion, and I can’t stop myself from asking more and trying to get a better idea. What do you say, faceless Internet acquaintances?)

    • dmdutcher says:

      Yeah, no. I think you’d hate it. Isn’t there some type of teaching position your degree could translate over to?

      • notleia says:

        Except I’m pretty sure I would hate teaching. Though W. Eric Myers was talking to me about the possibility of teaching conversational English in Japan or Korea. I think it’s a collegiate level, so they would have taken years of English and my crappy Japanese vocabulary wouldn’t hinder me.

  2. Notleia, I don’t know that experience helps all that much in making life-changing decisions. I mean, the very nature of life-changing decisions means we haven’t been there before, so how can we know?

    I’m of the mindset that this is the thing a Christian prays about and asks God for direction. I also don’t think He speaks in a still, small voice as often as He does through the wind or other circumstances He allows into our life. One thing we can’t discount is the desires of our heart. In other words, what do you want to do?

    As you describe it, I guess you’re conflicted. But hey, very, very few things in life don’t come as part of a trade off. Most are not win-win. The good ones are, often, win-lose only a little. So what’s your take on this decision? And don’t leave out your spiritual life. Would such a move draw you closer to God? That sort of thing.

    In the end, though, I think Ashlee’s point in this article is the key—trust in the Lord. Ask Him where He wants you, and trust Him to get you there and to be with you on the way.


  3. Rick Willis says:

    Wow, well said! Wish I’d said all that, but guess its good that my daughter did!

  4. What a heart-touching post! I, too, am addicted to books or reading, period. If I see a piece of paper fluttering down the sidewalk, I can’t resist picking it up to read what it says! Yes, you are right, books can give us wrong expectations about people, life and God.  (I want to be all fluffy and sweet like Mrs. Rabbit, but my kids ain’t adorable little bunnies!) I love the verses you used to remind us to keep our hearts. Thank you for the post and for being honest.

  5. AshleeW says:

    Charmaine, I appreciate that! So glad you enjoyed! 🙂

  6. Becky says:

    I think this post applies to writers as well. I know I sometimes look at this mess of a world and have the urge to write about a different world where good guys triumph and bad guys get what’s coming to them. It’s when I shut myself into that imaginary world and ignore reality that problems arise.

    Books with happy endings and where good triumphs over evil should inspire people to try and live better, more God-aligned lives, not cover their eyes and pretend everything is alright.

What do you think?