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Glamorizing Sin

Does your fiction glamorize sin? You might be surprised.
| Oct 7, 2014 | 14 comments |

Paryż_magdalena_nie_cudzołóżOften lost in the debate between “realistic” and “clean” fiction, is the overall message a story conveys about sin.

On the one hand, proponents of “realistic” fiction can fall into the error of glamorizing sin. In their attempts to portray a realistic depiction of sin’s life in this world, often to contrast it with the grace and hope of God, the message that ends up being sent is that some sins are minimal, normal, or not all that bad.

On the other, advocates of “clean” fiction can end up glamorizing ideal characters, situations, or simplistic solutions that have no bearing in reality. They end up with the Barbie effect: establishing a perfection of character, which instead of inspiring, creates a negative spiritual self-image that is debilitating.

Either approach can end up painting an unrealistic picture of sin from God’s perspective.

Let’s use an infrequently discussed but important sin: marital infidelity.

The media industry tends to glamorize cheating on one’s spouse. Often infidelity of some kind is used to increase the drama. While it is generally not viewed in a positive light, rarely does TV and the movies show its real impact of such betrayal on all involved. Frequently, there is minimal fall out from cheating. It either is shown to be benign—the demands of “love” trump the responsibility of self-giving love—or even in some cases it is depicted as a good and positive event.

The cheater is more often shown to be the victim than the betrayed.

Christian fiction is not immune from this problem. Oh, there may be the understanding it is wrong, but the author, unless they’ve been through it themselves, tends to gloss over the magnitude on all involved. It serves as a plot device to increase tension, but is portrayed as an easily solved problem with no lasting repercussions.

Likewise, on the “clean” fiction side, cheating will never play into a story line. Despite the fact that statistics say over 50% of people will experience infidelity during their life, even among Christians, “clean” fiction pretends it doesn’t exist.

If it does come into the story line, the simplistic solution tends to focus on the betrayed forgiving the betrayer, making everything okay again. Not only is that not a realistic depiction of an affair, it is a perversion of what forgiveness is about.

By failing to address the sin realistically or at all, our “clean” fiction enables sin.

First, by hiding it from us. We come at sin thinking we’re immune from it rather than fearing that “sin lieth at the door” (Gen 4:7). Too many Christians marry believing it will never happen to us. We love each other. He or she is a moral, strong Christian man or woman. They would never violate their vows.

I know. I considered my wife a strong, moral Christian. We loved each other. Though we had areas we could have improved in, we both expressed happiness and satisfaction with our relationship—for 29 years of marriage. I trusted her completely. I knew it wasn’t impossible, but I felt immune from it happening.

But the unthinkable happened. She fell to temptation. For seven months she lived a secret life. When I discovered it, my world fell apart. I questioned the reality of our past, and the future was up in the air. The person I thought I knew, who I’d shared 29 years of life with, became a stranger. It is by far the greatest upheaval and trauma of my life.

Because we thought it would never happen to us, because we never gave serious consideration to the possibility, we both became complacent in guarding against it. None of the marital books we’d read, fiction or non-fiction, prepared us for the reality of what we would encounter.

Fortunately, we’ve been able to rebuild from that devastating loss, and develop a better marriage. So much so that we wrote a book about our experience, Healing Infidelity. But our story isn’t in the majority. Most end up divorced or in unhappy marriages.

Books like mine should be required reading for premarital counseling. Newlyweds should be required to join an infidelity support group for a while and lurk. Being ignorant of fire increases your chances of getting burned by it. Books that ignore the topic or give unrealistic pictures of its effects end up glamorizing and enabling sin, whether secular or Christian.

A truly Christian book, whether fiction or non-fiction, will not ignore the presence of sin, nor will it paint an unrealistic picture of it from God’s perspective.

It will, however, present it as something that will destroy us—the definition of sin—while guiding us to the way of escape.

Glamorizing sin is more than making it shiny. It is lying about its reality on either end of the extreme.

What ways have you seen sin glamorized in fiction? How do we avoid it? Should we avoid reading such books?

As a young teen, R. L. Copple played in his own make-believe world, writing the stories and drawing the art for his own comics while experiencing the worlds of other authors like Tolkien, Lewis, Asimov, and Lester Del Ray. As an adult, after years of writing devotionally, he returned to the passion of his youth in order to combine his fantasy worlds and faith into the reality of the printed page. Since then, his imagination has given birth to The Reality Chronicles trilogy from Splashdown Books, and The Virtual Chronicles series, Ethereal Worlds Anthology, and How to Make an Ebook: Using Free Software from Ethereal Press, along with numerous short stories in various magazines.Learn more about R. L and his work at any of the following:Author Website, Author Blog, or Author Store.

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Travis Perry

Great post, Rick.

D. M. Dutcher

I think there is a point that Christians should write more books about things like infidelity, without whitewashing the impact of it on people’s lives. But I don’t think it’s glamorizing sin not to show the full impact of it depending on the theme of the book, any more than you focus on the full impact of murder in a book if you use it as a plot device. It depends on the purpose of the book and its theme. Sometimes a plot device is just a plot device.

Leah Burchfiel

After all, if sin isn’t fun, ur doin it rong.

Leah Burchfiel

So really, the title of this article should be “Glamorizing Infidelity.” It bugs me because it’s inaccurate as-is.

But anyway, storytime. My fiance left me for someone else, and you couldn’t pay me to get back with that [censored]. (I’m still angry.) But really, with all the clarity of hindsight, his leaving was a symptom of our problems, not a cause. Could we have worked through it? Maybe, in a theoretical reality where he even wanted to remain in our relationship and acknowledged his own problems and wanted to work on them. But since he’s still  a codependent, boundary-trampling [censored], nope.

So the things that can be gleaned from my story: infidelity is a symptom, not a cause; it takes effort from both parties or else it’s useless; people can stay mad a long time and not progress towards forgiveness at an outsider’s preferred pace.

Tony Breeden

Good post. As I’ve pointed out before, glossing over sin and trying to create characters that are Christian paragons takes the teeth out of our writing; to wit, how can we show a God who can meet us wherever we are and help us overcome any sin if we are unwilling to portray people [and their sins] as they actually are, consequences and all?

More of my thoughts on this subject can be found here: http://tonybreeden.blogspot.com/2014/07/life-without-plastic-writing-christian.html

Regards and keep up the good work!


Julie D

I suppose I’d never considered how ignoring sin altogether can “glamourize” it as much a more openly positive portrayal, but both approaches ignore the consequences.  Definitely something to consider.

Rebecca LuElla Miller

Good post, Rick.

I’d like to differentiate between “clean fiction” and “safe fiction,” however. For example, Francine Rivers wrote a book entitled When the Shofar Blew about the life of a pastor, which included his infidelity. It was “clean,” however, but it was an honest story with no quick fixes and no minimizing of the damage his actions caused.

I think there are “safe” stories that would want to move past the harm to get to the restoration, but in the process, they trivialize the hurt and hard work required. Yes, we enjoy God’s forgiveness, and His grace takes us through. We want to celebrate that. But when we celebrate too soon, we actually cheapen the very things we want to highlight.



The way a lot of stories (both clean and dirty) treat lying is a personal pet peeve of mine.  The Bible says that God thinks of “a lying tongue” as an abomination; and yet, I can’t think of very many stories that address lying as something problematic or display consequences for it.  Instead, lying is something that even the good guys will do without any compunction, and it’s portrayed as a harmless action so long as no overt malice is involved.

Alex Mellen

That’s a really good point. Lies are only bad in books if  they hurt someone, and the lesson ends up being “don’t hurt people by what you say.” What about lies that make others feel good or help others? They’re usually portrayed as okay.


On the other hand, a character that never lies often feels like the “Barbie effect.” (The one exception I can think of is Captain America, and he’s hardly realistic.) I want to show the values of truth and trusting others in my stories, so the characters learn that all lies are harmful in some way.